When Someone Says “No”

I heard from the radio yesterday that during a break up when the girl can’t accept the guy’s “no”, it’s like a child not getting what she wants.

Some rebel and go silent all of a sudden.

Some cry and pouts up to no end. They think that pity will get them the candy.

Some accepts the situation and just moves on.

They said that kids who were trained early in life by not always giving them what they want turn out better at handling disappointments when they grow up.

I had this girlfriend that hounded me, my family and my friends because she can’t accept the fact that I broke up with her. She talked to everyone about the situation. She did some tactics but my decision was final.

I wished back then that she could just learn to let it go.

There was one time I tried to make amends, saying sorry seeing how she was doing. She replied with a casual bitter tone. Too soon I thought to myself.

Since then I’m very uncomfortable speaking or interacting with her. Seeing her or her picture just repels me. I can’t help it. It’s mean, I know but that’s how I feel.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot of nice things about her too. But I guess writing them down woudn’t vindicate my words.

The thing is when someone says no, ask if there’s anything more you could do. If there’s nothing left, just accept the situation and move on with your life. Yes it’s hard but you are supposed to deal with it. You do not control the actions and decisions of others. The only thing that you can control is your own.